18 year old dating 40 year old
Most college-age women who are drugged and raped, are drugged and raped by their generational peers, frequently by fellow students.
What your sister endured was a horrible crime, but it wasn't part of a larger general pattern of older men slipping roofies into younger women's drinks. I've never been married, so parts of my life are in an arrested stage of development.
And yeah there's nothing much you can do about it other than express disapproval when they're both 'consenting adults' but there are adults and there are adults, so yes, I do reserve my right to disapprove in general (while conceding that in certain rare circumstances it may work out well).
I won't say anything about it because I learned long ago that nobody (myself most certainly included) is going to listen to anybody else where their sex-life is concerned and, as somebody here pointed out, 19 is above the age of consent in every state, but here's another weirdity (is that a word?
She let it slip to me (I'm 28 FWIW) when she had had one too many beers at a party exacting a promise that I wasn't to tell our mother.
Well I told my older sister and she told my mother so technically I didn't tell but my mother doesn't know what to do.
I have a co-worker with whom I'm work chums (we're not bosom buddies but we like each other at work- I'm sure you've had one).
I would be interested to find out how much the 19 yr old mentioned in the OP's family know about her 'relationship' with your colleague. For such great age differences, I can't believe this is true beyond the superficial layer called lust (and/or gold digging)? From the age of 32 to 37, I dated a woman 17 years my senior. As long as nobody's breaking the law and everyone's having fun, I don't see a problem here.Though not conpletely unheard of, it does happen, but it is not a norm by any means. And it is non-of your business, but you'll probably be called upon to pick up the pieces when it falls apart. This is similar to my sister's situation and I'm pretty worried about it.She's 19 and apparently not just seeing, but sleeping with a 35 year old Scottish man that none of her family has ever met or knows anything about.I'm curious to see what others think: if you had friends in this type of relationship, would you think "She's a BABY! My parents had an 18 year age difference (she was 16 and he was 34 when they married [and he was her high-school teacher]- this was rural Alabama in the early 1950s when that wasn't so scandalous) and the marriage lasted for 30 years. (It wasn't a happy union, it's just that its unhappiness got tenure.) How much of my parents' unhappiness was based in the age difference I don't know, but I can't shake the feeling that when a guy goes after a gal half-his-age, however else he may justify it the lust for firm young flesh is high on the list of REAL motivations (not to say that he can't be intellectually attracted as well). Maybe you would do well to adopt my motto: I don't care WHAT you do, as long as you don't do it to me. at a small Liberal Arts College in New England, I'll say this. On the other hand, this does seem a bit icky to me. Before I started dating men twenty years older than me, I dated men the same age as myself, and one much younger.
" or would you think "one can't control where the heart will lead"? My husband's second wife was 17 years younger than him. I'm honestly not sure what motivates a 19 year old girl to go after a guy twice her age (it's definitely not money with this kid as judging by her car and clothes she's from a very well-to-do family). Or what I tell my kids- you worry about YOURself, and let others worry about THEMselves. Wht he is doing is very taboo among the upper echelon of college profs. It is not advisable to date students at your institution, and though I have personal objections to the age difference, in this situation it is more of a professional indecency. I'm honestly not sure what motivates a 19 year old girl to go after a guy twice her age (it's definitely not money with this kid as judging by her car and clothes she's from a very well-to-do family). Makes me wonder if this girl knows what she is doing, but hey! ;) In conclusion, this is none of our business, so let's just give a little shudder and forget about it.
she's certainly cute and seems really nice, but I can't get over the age difference.